Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Coming Home Phone Line
for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Call  1.712.432.8808     
Access code 742247#

Press *1 to mute and unmute




Scripts:  Regular  Workshop  Step Zero  Noting to heavy IFS

Nothing too Heavy to Share Meeting Script:

A Parts Focused Meeting for those with DID, Multiplicity, and Severe Internal Fragmentation
Welcome to the Coming Home Phone Line, an Intergroup of Survivors of Incest Anonymous. My name is ____________, and I am a survivor.

All the meeting readings, including this script, are on our website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

This meeting is for adult women and men who were abused as children. This is a place to work on healing the wounds of incest.
SIA is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here in the telephone meeting, and member to member, must be held in confidence. When we feel safe, we can honestly share what’s in our hearts, which is how we truly help each other in SIA.

In order to get to know each other, let’s all introduce ourselves by our first names, and if you want, where you’re calling from. I'll start. My name is ___________, and I’m a survivor of ____________.

Who else would like to introduce themselves? To unmute, press *1.

(Welcome each person.)

Welcome everyone.

If you are a newcomer to SIA or new to our phone line, we welcome you. At the close of the formal meeting, during the announcements section, we’ll be happy to answer any questions you may have about SIA meetings or participation.
Please keep your phone muted except when reading or sharing. To mute and unmute, press *1, or you can use the mute button on your phone. Also, due to phoneline sound issues, only the moderator thanks the reader or speaker.

Would someone please read The Twelve Steps of SIA?
Moderator:

In addition to reading the steps at this meeting it has been decided by group conscience to read one tradition per meeting and all the traditions at group conscience and business meetings. The tradition that I’d like to share with the group today is tradition # ______ (moderator reads a tradition of choice).

12-Traditions of SIA

1. Our common welfare should come first; personal progress for the greatest number depends upon unity.
2. For our group purpose there is but one authority -- a loving Higher Power, as this one may express her/himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
3. The only requirement for membership is that you be a victim of childhood sexual abuse, that you desire to recover from it, and that you have not abused any child as an adult.
4. Groups should be autonomous except in matters affecting SIA as a whole.
5. Each group has but one primary purpose -- to carry its message to the sexual abuse victim who still suffers.
6. An SIA group ought never to endorse, finance, or lend the SIA name to any outside enterprise lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary objective.
7. Every SIA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
8. Survivors of Incest Anonymous twelve step work should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
9. Survivors of Incest Anonymous groups, as such, ought never be organized, but they may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
10. Survivors of Incest Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues, hence the SIA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.


By group conscience of the CHPL intergroup it has been decided that other than the 12 Steps and one Tradition, the only other reading that must occur is the 12 Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings. However, if anyone would like to have The Definition of Incest, The Legacy of Incest or The Solution read, and is willing to read that document we can make space to do so. Would anyone like to do one of those readings before going to the 12 Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings?


Would someone please volunteer to read the Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings or the first half of them for us?

Meeting Focus
Today’s meeting is called "Nothing to Heavy to Share”; this is a parts focused meeting for those with DID, Multiplicity, and Severe Internal Fragmentation. At this meeting you or any of your parts or personalities may share. Further, the meeting may begin with a 5 minute reading about DID that any moderator or member may bring to the group. If you’d like to share literature, be it SIA or other helpful related DID literature, please let the moderator know in advance or at the meeting. If no one has any literature to share, the moderator will take up to three topics and people may share on those topics or any other aspect of their recovery as it relates to dealing with the effects of severe childhood sexual, physical, emotional, verbal or spiritual abuse.
(Moderator announces literature s/he would like to read or asks for other reading from those attending)
Today, I’d like to share an reading from __________________.
Today, I have no literature to read, does anyone else have any DID related literature they’d like to read?
(Note 1: if literature is read, no request for topics is made. The moderator then reads or asks the volunteer to read their literature)
Note 2: if no literature is read, moderator asks for topics and can take up to three topics.)
Given that no one has literature to share today, we’ll go ahead with an open topics share meeting. Does anyone have a topic that they’d like to suggest. We can take up to three.
(After receiving topics Moderator provides first opportunity to share to those who suggested topics)
Today we have (state topics and what they are) on the floor. You may share on these topics or anything else that’s up for you, your parts or personalities. As a courtesy, we provide first opportunity to share to those who suggested topics. Please note that you don’t have to share first if you don’t wish to and may pass at this point if you’d like. I’ll be checking with those who suggested topics in a moment to see if they’d like to share, but first a few final notes before sharing:

We allow the moderator to thank the last speaker before we request to share. If more than one person asks to share at the same time, the moderator will decide who shares first and will place only one person into the waiting queue.

Finally during meetings, shares must be confined or directly tied-in to issues related to recovery from childhood sexual abuse.

Please limit your share to 5 minutes as determined by the meeting’s group conscience. 

Would someone volunteer to be our Spiritual Timekeeper? (When someone volunteers, thank them.)

For those of you who are new, at the four minute mark, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute.” At the end of five minutes, they will say, “Time.” Please acknowledge when you hear the Timekeeper.

(Otherwise) Okay, we will self-time for ____ minutes.


Today’s topics again are (share the topics again), and you can share on those or anything else related to your recovery.
(Moderator now checks in to see if those who suggested topics wish to share first. After they have shared, the meeting is opened up for anyone to share.)


Who would like to begin the sharing?





(Call for the Next-to-the-last Share about 15 minutes before the meeting ends.)

The Next-to-the-last Share, by group conscience, is for anyone who has provided service at the meeting, or checked in at the beginning of the meeting who did not have a chance to share. Is there anyone who did service or who has been at the entire meeting who would like to take the Next-to-the-last Share?

(If no one wishes to share, open it up again for anyone.)

The Last Share of the Day is the Newcomer Share. A Newcomer is someone who has shared 6 or fewer times on the line. Is there a Newcomer who would like to share at this point or simply come in and introduce themselves?

(If no Newcomer wishes to share, sharing is opened up again for anyone.)

(If more than five minutes remain after the Newcomer share, call for another share.)

 The 7th Tradition: SIA is fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. Please consider sending a dollar contribution for each meeting you attend on the phone line to the World Service Office. To make a contribution through PayPal, please go to the World Service Office web site at SIAWSO.org. or you may choose to use the mail.

Will someone please read the Twelve Promises?

I’d like to thank all who read, all who shared, our timekeeper and all who held space by listening. (Moderator may choose to thank those who read by first name)

A gentle reminder: The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them.  Take what you liked and leave the rest.

Remember, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.

Whatever your problems, there are those among us that have them too. Talk with one another, reason things out, but let there be no gossip or criticism.  Instead, let the love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.

For all those who would like to, please join me in saying the Serenity Prayer.


Now it’s time for Announcements:

To begin with, welcome to the Newcomers. At the end of these announcements we will take any questions you have about SIA meetings, phone line etiquette, SIA Safety Guidelines, and participation.
Meetings

·    On the Coming Home Phone Line, there are daily meetings or workshops, morning, afternoon and evening. For information about meeting topics, times, and which meetings have moderators, please go to the website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

Moderating

 ·    What to do if the moderator is unable to be present: Anyone may start the SIA meeting if the scheduled moderator is unable to do so.


·      Meeting moderators serve 3-month lengths of service. If you’d like to serve as moderator, co-moderator or back-up moderator, please let any meeting moderator know of your willingness to be of service in this way. After 3 months of service as a moderator or co-moderator, you are eligible to represent your meeting at the Intergroup level.  All members are welcome at Intergroup meetings.

Meeting Notifications & Email Announcements

 ·     If you’d like to receive a reminder about the meetings you attend on the phoneline, please give your contact information to the moderator and he or she will send a reminder about that meeting. Also, if you’d like to be an active member of the Coming Home Phoneline notification list for special workshops, meeting marathons and SIA World Service events, please ask your meeting moderator to pass your information along to the intergroup volunteer who manages that list and sends out announcements.
Are there any other announcements or requests for phone numbers or would anyone like to give out a phone number?

Are there any newcomers with questions about SIA CHPL, anonymity, or SIA in general? If you would like someone to contact you with more information please let us know.

Because SIA is a peer led support group, there are no professionals to mediate safety issues that arise outside of structured meetings and workshops on this line. As a result, by unanimous vote of the Coming Home Phoneline Intergroup, it was decided to end all fellowship before and after phoneline meetings and workshops. We realize that sometimes meetings end before all who want to share have a chance to do so. Therefore, attendees of any meeting may continue to share if someone agrees to step up and serve as moderator. After the meeting’s announcements have been made, and questions answered, anyone may volunteer to step in and serve as moderator until everyone who wants to share has done so. At that point, the extended meeting will close with the Serenity Prayer. Please remember, from this point forward, the phoneline is for meetings and workshops only. If you would like to have a back and forth conversation with a fellow survivor, you may exchange contact information and continue sharing offline.
Do we have anyone at this point who’d like to volunteer to step up and serve as moderator in case there are others who wish to continue to share?
If answer is “Yes” wish everyone a good day and turn over to after meeting moderator.
If answer is “No” wish everyone the best.