Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Coming Home Phone Line
for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Call  1.712.432.8808     
Access code 742247#

Press *1 to mute and unmute





 


Welcome to the Coming Home Phone Line, an Intergroup of Survivors of Incest Anonymous. My name is ____________, and I am a survivor.

All the meeting readings, including this script, are on our website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

This meeting is for adult women and men who were abused as children. This is a place to work on healing the wounds of incest.

SIA is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here in the telephone meeting, and member to member, must be held in confidence. When we feel safe, we can honestly share what’s in our hearts, which is how we truly help each other in SIA.

In order to get to know each other, let’s all introduce ourselves by our first names, and if you want, where you’re calling from. I'll start. My name is ___________.

Who else would like to introduce themselves? To unmute, press *1.

(Welcome each person.)

Welcome everyone.

If you are a newcomer to SIA or new to our phone line, we welcome you. At the close of the formal meeting we open the line for any questions you may have. If you cannot stay until the end of the meeting and you would like more information, please let us know. (Direct to SIA website / give or get phone number)

Please keep your phone muted except when reading or sharing. To mute and unmute, press *1, or you can use the mute button on your phone. Also, due to phoneline sound issues, only the moderator thanks the reader or speaker.

Would someone please read The Twelve Steps of SIA?

We read one Tradition per meeting, and all the Traditions at Group Conscience and Business Meetings. The Tradition that I’d like to share with the group today is Tradition # ______. (Read a Tradition of your choice.)

By group conscience of the CHPL intergroup it has been decided that other than the 12 Steps and one Tradition, the only other reading that must occur is the 12 Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings. However, if anyone would like to have The Definition of Incest, The Legacy of Incest or The Solution read, we can do so. Would anyone like to have one of the other three readings done before going to the 12 Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings? (If someone requests a doc ask that person to read it or for another volunteer to do so).

(Would someone volunteer to read The Definition of Incest?)

(Would someone volunteer to read The Legacy of Incest?)

(Would someone volunteer to read The Solution?)

Would someone please volunteer to read the Guidelines for Safe Sharing at Phone Meetings?





(Introduce the focus of the meeting [i.e. Inner Kids, Open Share, Step Study, workshop, etc...])

For an Open Share meeting, the moderator may take up to 3 topics. (Choose a topic from the Topics List on the website, or ask for topics) Does anyone have a topic they would like discussed tonight?

(After reading literature or requesting Topics, please say)

A few final notes before sharing:

We allow the moderator to thank the last speaker before we request to share. If more than one person asks to share at the same time, the moderator will decide who shares first and will place only one person into the waiting queue.

Finally during meetings, shares must be confined or directly tied-in to issues related to recovery from childhood sexual abuse.

Please limit your share to _________ minutes as determined by the meeting’s group conscience.  (Open share meetings tend to be 5 minutes and step and tradition study meetings 3 minutes).

Would someone volunteer to be our Spiritual Timekeeper? (When someone volunteers, thank them.)

At four minutes, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute.” At the end of five minutes, they will say, “Time.” Please acknowledge when you hear the Timekeeper.

(If the shares are 3-minute shares, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute” at the 2-minute mark.)

(Otherwise) Okay, we will self-time for ____ minutes.

(For an Open Share Meeting please say)

The topics are __________. However, we are not required to share on the suggested topics.

OR

(If the meeting is a Special Topic Meeting, such as a Speaker Meeting, Step Study, or Traditions Study, read the appropriate Additional Script Reading at the end of this script.)

 

Who would like to begin the sharing?





(Call for the Next-to-the-last Share about 15 minutes before the meeting ends.)

The Next-to-the-last Share, by group conscience, is for anyone who has provided service at the meeting, or checked in at the beginning of the meeting who did not have a chance to share. Is there anyone who did service or who has been at the entire meeting who would like to take the Next-to-the-last Share?

(If no one wishes to share, open it up again for anyone.)

The Last Share of the Day is the Newcomer Share. A Newcomer is someone who has shared 6 or fewer times on the line. Is there a Newcomer who would like to share at this point or simply come in and introduce themselves?

(If no Newcomer wishes to share, sharing is opened up again for anyone.)

(If more than five minutes remain after the Newcomer share, call for another share.)

 The 7th Tradition: SIA is fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. Please consider sending a dollar contribution for each meeting you attend on the phone line to the World Service Office. To make a contribution through PayPal, please go to the World Service Office web site at SIAWSO.org. or you may choose to use the mail.

Will someone please read the Twelve Promises?

I’d like to thank all who read, all who shared, our timekeeper and all who held space by listening. (Moderator may choose to thank those who read by first name)

A gentle reminder: The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them.  Take what you liked and leave the rest.

Remember, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.

Whatever your problems, there are those among us that have them too. Talk with one another, reason things out, but let there be no gossip or criticism.  Instead, let the love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.

For all those who would like to, please join me in saying the Serenity Prayer.


Now it’s time for Announcements:

To begin with, welcome to the Newcomers. At the end of these announcements we will take any questions you have about SIA meetings, phone line etiquette, SIA Safety Guidelines, and participation.

·    On the Coming Home Phone Line, there are daily meetings or workshops, morning, afternoon and evening. For information about meeting topics, times, and which meetings have moderators, please go to the website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

 

·    What to do if the moderator is unable to be present: Anyone may start the SIA meeting if the scheduled moderator is unable to do so.

·     If you’d like to receive a reminder about the meetings you attend on the phoneline, please give your contact information to the moderator and he or she will send a reminder about that meeting. Also, if you’d like to be an active member of the Coming Home Phoneline notification list for special workshops, meeting marathons and SIA World Service events, please ask your meeting moderator to pass your information along to the intergroup volunteer who manages that list and sends out announcements. (Liz P or Sue C)

 
·      Meeting moderators serve 3-month lengths of service. If you’d like to serve as moderator, co-moderator or back-up moderator, please let any meeting moderator know of your willingness to be of service in this way. After 3 months of service as a moderator or co-moderator, you are eligible to represent your meeting at the Intergroup level.  All members are welcome at Intergroup meetings.

 
Are there any other announcements or requests for phone numbers or would anyone like to give out a phone number?

Are there any newcomers with questions about SIA CHPL, anonymity, or SIA in general? If you would like someone to contact you with more information please let us know.

Because SIA is a peer led support group, there are no professionals to mediate safety issues that arise outside of structured meetings and workshops on this line. As a result, by unanimous vote of the Coming Home Phoneline Intergroup, it was decided to end all fellowship before and after phoneline meetings and workshops. We realize that sometimes meetings end before all who want to share have a chance to do so. Therefore, attendees of any meeting may continue to share if someone agrees to step up and serve as moderator. After the meeting’s announcements have been made, and questions answered, anyone may volunteer to step in and serve as moderator until everyone who wants to share has done so. At that point, the extended meeting will close with the Serenity Prayer. Please remember, from this point forward, the phoneline is for meetings and workshops only. If you would like to have a back and forth conversation with a fellow survivor, you may exchange contact information and continue sharing offline.



Additional Script Readings for Special-topic Meetings



Speaker Meeting

Is there a volunteer to share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes?

(OR)


(If a speaker has already been chosen) Now, (member name) __________ will share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes.

(AFTER THE SPEAKER SHARE)


(Ask) Would the Speaker like to choose a topic for this meeting?

The topic is _____.

Unlike at other Coming Home Phone Line meetings, it is okay for members who are about to share to thank the Speaker by name for their share. We may share our experience, strength and hope on the same topic, but we don't comment directly on what the Speaker has said.

Who would like to begin the sharing?

(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)

(After announcements for the Sunday morning Speaker Meeting are made, instead of reading the Fellowship Reading, say)

We will now have our Creative Share Fair and Inner Kid Play Time. People may share their creative work, sing, play music & let their inner kids come out to play.

Please limit your Creative Share to five minutes, self-timed.

Members may share more than once during Creative Share Fair if no one else volunteers to share.

Members can also share regular shares if they don't want to share a Creative Share.

Step Study Meeting



We read from the SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Step is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Step, then shares for 3 or 5 minutes, depending on the meeting. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.

If no one wishes to share on that paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.

We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even if they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Step, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.

It's okay to share more than once during this meeting.

If a Step is not completed in the course of a meeting, the next Step Study meeting will pick up where the last meeting ended.

In the twice-a-week morning Step meetings, only one Step is studied per week. At the second meeting of the week, the part that was read at the first meeting is reread without comment. When the new part is read, normal shares resume.

Once the Step and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.

When all 12 Steps have been worked through, the meeting will return to Step One.

The Step we are reading today is ____________. Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?

(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)

Traditions Study Meeting



We read from the SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Tradition is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Tradition, then shares for 3. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.

If no one wishes to share on the paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.

We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Tradition, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.

It's okay to share more than once during this meeting.

Once the Tradition and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.

When all 12 Traditions have been worked through, the meeting will return to Tradition One.

The Tradition we are reading today is ____________.

Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?

(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)"