Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Coming Home Phone Line
for Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Call  1.712.432.8808     
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Coming Home Phone Line

Meeting Script


 

Welcome to the Coming Home Phone Line, an Intergroup of Survivors of Incest Anonymous. My name is ____________, and I am a survivor.

 

All the meeting readings, including this script, are on our website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

 

This meeting is for adult women and men who were abused as children. This is a place to work on healing the wounds of incest.

 

SIA is an anonymous fellowship. Everything that is said here in the telephone meeting, and member to member, must be held in confidence. When we feel safe, we can honestly share what’s in our hearts, which is how we truly help each other in SIA.

 

Are there any newcomers on the line? To unmute, press *1. 

(Welcome the newcomers.)

If you have any questions, please stay after the meeting and we'll answer your questions then.


In order to get to know each other, let’s all introduce ourselves by our first names, and if you want, where you’re calling from. 


I'll start. My name is ______ and I'm calling from _____. 

Who would like to go next? (Welcome each person.)

 

Welcome everyone.

 

Please keep your phone muted except when reading or sharing. To mute and unmute, press *1, or you can unmute by pressing *1 then use the mute button on your phone.

 

Only the moderator thanks the reader or speaker. 

 

Would someone please read The Twelve Steps of SIA?

  

We read one Tradition per meeting, and all the Traditions at Safety Check and Business Meetings. The Tradition that I’d like to share with the group today is Tradition # ______. (Read a Tradition of your choice.)

 

 

Would someone volunteer to read The Definition of Incest?

 

Would someone volunteer to read The Legacy of Incest?

 

Would someone volunteer to read The Solution?

 

Would someone please volunteer to read the Guidelines for Safe Sharing?

  

A few final notes before sharing:

 

We allow the moderator to thank the last speaker before we request to share. If more than one person asks to share at the same time, the moderator will decide who shares first and will place only one person into the waiting queue.

 

Finally during meetings, shares must be confined or directly tied-in to issues related to recovery from childhood sexual abuse.

 

Please limit your share to _________ minutes (as determined by the meeting’s group conscience).

 

Would someone volunteer to be our Spiritual Timekeeper?

(If  someone volunteers, thank them and say:)

 

At four minutes, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute.” At the end of five minutes, they will say, “Time.” Please acknowledge when you hear the Timekeeper.

 

(If the shares are 3-minute shares, the Timekeeper will say “One Minute” at the 2-minute mark.)

 

 (If no one volunteers to be the Timekeeper, say:)

Since we have no Timekeeper, we'll self-time for ___ minutes.



(Choose a topic from the Topics List on the website, or ask for a topic)

 

The topic is __________. We are not required to share on the selected topic.

 

OR

 

(If the meeting is a Special Topic Meeting, such as a Speaker Meeting, Step Study or Traditions Study, read the appropriate Additional Script Reading at the end of this script.)

 

Who would like to begin the sharing?

 

Call for the Next-to-the-last Share about 15 minutes before the meeting ends.)

 

Is there anyone who did service or who has been at the entire meeting who would like take the Next-to-the-last Share?

 

(If no one wishes to share, open it up again for anyone.)

 

Call for the Last Share of the Meeting about 10 minutes before the meeting ends.)

 

The last share of the day is the Newcomer Share. A Newcomer is someone who has shared 6 or fewer times on the line. Is there a Newcomer who would like to share at this point?

 

(If no Newcomer wishes to share, sharing is opened up again for anyone.)

 

(If more than five minutes remain after the Newcomer share, call for another share.)

 

Closing

(At about 5 minutes before the end of the meeting, say:) That’s all the time we have for sharing, but you can share in Fellowship if you didn’t have a chance during the meeting.

 

The 7th Tradition: SIA is fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions. Please consider sending a dollar contribution for each meeting you attend on the phone line to the World Service Office. To make a contribution through PayPal, please go to the World Service Office web site at SIAWSO.org.

 

Will someone please read the Twelve Promises?

 

I’d like to thank all who read, all who shared, our timekeeper and all who held space by listening.

 

A gentle reminder: The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them.  Take what you liked and leave the rest.

 

Remember, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here.

 

Whatever your problems, there are those among us that have them too. Talk with one another, reason things out, but let there be no gossip or criticism.  Instead, let the love and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.

 

For all those who would like to, please join me in saying the Serenity Prayer.

 

Welcome to the Newcomers. Are there any Newcomer questions? 


Now it’s time for Announcements:

  • On the Coming Home Phone Line, there are three daily meetings or workshops, morning, afternoon and evening. For information about meeting topics and times, please go to the website, SIAComingHomePhoneLine.org.

  • Meeting moderators serve 3-month lengths of service, after you are eligible to represent your meeting at the Intergroup level as a voting member.  All members are welcome at Intergroup meetings, the date and times of which are announced on the phone line. 

  • Group Reps (GRs) are voted in at their meeting’s business meeting. GRs represent their meetings at phone line Intergroup meetings, serve a six-month term of service and are required to have served as either a moderator or co-moderator for a minimum of three months prior to serving as a GR. 

 

Are there any announcements or requests for phone numbers or would anyone like to give out a phone number?

 

Is there anyone who didn’t get a chance to share during the meeting who would like to share first during fellowship?

 

(Read the Fellowship Reading.)

 

 

 


 

Additional Script Readings for

Special-topic Meetings

 

Speaker Meeting

 

Is there a volunteer to share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes?

(OR)

 

(If a speaker has already been chosen) Now, (member name) __________ will share their experience, strength and hope for fifteen minutes.        

(AFTER THE SPEAKER SHARE)

 

(Ask) Would the Speaker like to choose a topic for this meeting?

The topic is _____.

 

Unlike at other Coming Home Phone Line meetings, it is okay for members who are about to share to thank the Speaker by name for their share. We may share our experience, strength and hope on the same topic, but we don’t comment directly on what the Speaker has said.


Who would like to begin the sharing?


(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)        

(After announcements for the Sunday morning Speaker Meeting are made, instead of reading the Fellowship Reading, say)

 

We will now have our Creative Share Fair and Inner Kid Play Time. People may share their creative work, sing, play music & let their inner kids come out to play.

 

Please limit your Creative Share to five minutes, self-timed.

 

Members may share more than once during Creative Share Fair if no one else volunteers to share.

 

Members can also share regular shares if they don’t want to share a Creative Share.




Step Study Meeting

 

We read from the SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Step is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Step, then shares for 3 or 5 minutes, depending on the meeting. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.

 

If no one wishes to share on that paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.

 

We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even if they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Step, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.

 

It’s okay to share more than once during this meeting.

 

If a Step is not completed in the course of a meeting, the next Step Study meeting will pick up where the last meeting ended.

 

In the twice-a-week morning Step meetings, only one Step is studied per week. At the second meeting of the week, the part that was read at the first meeting is reread without comment. When the new part is read, normal shares resume.

 

Once the Step and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.

 

When all 12 Steps have been worked through, the meeting will return to Step One.

 

The Step we are reading today is ____________. Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?


(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)


Traditions Study Meeting

 

We read from the SIA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pamphlet. Each Tradition is studied from beginning to end. A volunteer reads one paragraph or 2 of the questions at the end of the Tradition, then shares for 3. After each reading, the moderator takes two shares. If no one volunteers to read, the moderator reads.

 

If no one wishes to share on the paragraph or questions, the next paragraph or questions are read.

 

We may share on a paragraph or questions that were already read, even they were not the last ones read. We try to share about our understanding of the Tradition, how we apply it to our recovery, how we want to apply it or challenges we have applying it.

 

It’s okay to share more than once during this meeting.

 

Once the Tradition and its questions are done being read, open sharing begins.

 

When all 12 Traditions have been worked through, the meeting will return to Tradition One.

 

The Tradition we are reading today is ____________.

 

Who would like to volunteer to begin the reading?

 

 

(Return to the regular Meeting Script above for the meeting Closing.)