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Safety Check Meeting Script

Introduction to Group Safety Check Process


If you feel that someone has crossed the line and is failing to honor the Guidelines for Safe Sharing more than once at a meeting or at two meetings in a row, you may request a group Safety Check. A Safety Check takes precedence. At a Safety Check, the group secretary leads the process.


To begin the process, the secretary will reread the Guidelines for Safe Sharing. Then the person who called the Safety Check will be given up to 30 seconds to state the reason for calling the Safety Check. At that point, everyone in the room will be given up to 30 seconds to share whether or not they feel a sharing violation has occurred.


If a majority does not feel that a violation has occurred, the meeting returns to sharing and the interrupted individual is given the opportunity to complete their share. 


On the other hand, if a majority does feel a Guidelines for Safe Sharing violation has occurred, and the individual continues to violate these guidelines more than once in a meeting or at two meetings in a row, a group action plan will be implemented, and all members are asked to familiarize themselves with this document which is located at the end of this script.



Group Safety Check Description


We want this meeting to be a safe place and want to remind all individuals that there are appropriate and inappropriate ways of expressing feelings and issues during the sharing time. This meeting does not condone abusive or controlling behavior in any form.


As a safety measure, if a person needs to be reminded to behave in a non-abusive fashion at more than 2 meetings in a row, or more than once in a single meeting, any member of the group may call for a vote of censure of the individual who is behaving in an abusive manner.


If a vote of censure is called for, and seconded, the secretary or moderator will call for an immediate vote. During the vote, the person whose behavior is being voted on will be required to leave the meeting for the remainder of the day. If that person refuses to leave, they will be considered to be in violation of the abusive behavior rule and will be expelled from the meeting for a period of at least one month. Their phone number will also be banned by the person who operates the meeting dashboard.


If more than half of the people attending the meeting vote for censure, the individual who was behaving in a manner considered abusive by the group will be asked to leave the meeting and will not be allowed to return for a minimum of 1 month. Further, the individual must also be willing to publicly acknowledge his/her behavior and apologize to the group upon returning. If said individual is not willing to apologize, they will not be allowed to return to the group.



Safety Check Meeting Process Format for
1st Potential Not Adherence to Safety Guidelines


  1. Call Meeting to Order

  2. Open with Reading the 12 Traditions.

  3. Take Roll of who may want to participate so everyone may be called on (Let people know they do not have to share and may pass when it’s their turn.)

  4. State reason Safety Check has been called and specific paragraph in Guidelines that was not followed.

  5. Allow person calling the Safety Check to state in 30 seconds or less the reason for the meeting.

  6. Read the pertinent paragraph in the Guidelines for Safe Sharing in entirety.

  7. Allow each member on the roll to comment for up to 30 seconds about whether they feel the Guidelines to Safe Sharing have been adhered to or not. At end of roll, give others who may not have checked in the opportunity to comment.


After Completing Step 7 Please go to the reading below that applies.



If a majority does not feel that a violation of the Guidelines for Safe Sharing has occurred, use the following script:


Since a majority of us feel the Safety Guidelines have been adhered to, we will now return to our normal meeting. The person whose share was interrupted by the meeting will be given the opportunity to complete their share. Thanks to everyone who participated in today’s safety check because it makes our meeting stronger and safer.

(Name of person who’s share was interrupted) do you wish to share or do you wish to pass?

Return to normal meeting process.


What to Say if a Majority feel the Safety Guidelines have been violated:


(First violation)


A majority of our meeting’s members feel that the Guidelines for Safe Sharing have not been followed. Specifically, Guideline _____ was not adhered to.


Therefore, I wish to remind the individual who did not follow the Guideline that our group understands that we all make mistakes. However, if the Guidelines to Safe Sharing are not followed by you for a second time in this meeting or the next time you attend this meeting, then our group action plan will be implemented. A formal vote will occur and if a majority of members agrees that the Guidelines were not followed, you will be asked to leave the meeting for a month, and in order to return to the meeting you will need to make a formal amends to the group in a letter that is sent to our intergroup secretary prior to returning. Further, upon returning you will need to apologize to the group the first time that you share.


Again, thank you all for participating in today’s safety check meeting. We will now return to normal sharing. Who would like to share next?


(Note: if a person did not follow the Guidelines, they are not allowed to share again during the meeting that day, but they may do so during Fellowship.)


Safety Check Meeting Process For a Vote of Censure due to Two Safety Guideline Violations


Call Meeting to Order and ask the person for whom the vote is called to please leave the line for the remainder of the day. (If person refuses to leave line s/he is considered to be in automatic violation of the Safety Guidelines and an automatic censure occurs--they are banned for one month minimum from the meeting. To return to the meeting, the individual must send a formal letter of amends to the Intergroup secretary. Only after that may the individual return to the meeting, and the first time s/he shares s/he must verbally apologize to the group.

  1. Open with Reading the 12 Traditions.

  2. Ask for person who called for the vote of censure to state reason why in 30 seconds or less.

  3. Reread pertinent section(s) of the Guidelines for Safe Sharing.

  4. Ask for a motion for a vote of censure and a second.

  5. Take roll of individuals wanting to participate in vote and explain that people when called upon may vote yes, no or abstain.

  6. Take vote.


What to Say after a Vote of Censure


A vote to censure (individual’s name) for not following the Guidelines for Safe Sharing has been called and passed by a majority of members at this meeting. Therefore, (individual’s name) will not be allowed to attend this meeting for a minimum of one month. To return, that individual must write a formal letter of amends and send it to our group secretary before returning to meeting. Further, (individual’s name) must make amends to the entire group verbally the first time s/he shares again at this meeting.


I will send a letter to the SIA Coming Home Phone Line Intergroup secretary to notify him/her of this meeting’s decision.

I’d like to thank all of you who participated in today’s vote. Everyone deserves to be treated with the safety and respect for one another that our Guidelines for Safe Sharing are set up to provide for.

At this time we will now return to the meeting. Who would like to share next?

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